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When I was younger I was given the funniest, feistiest cat ever. I named him Spunk. At the time, the word meant courage (he was so bold). Years later, a new neighbor came by as I was petting her dog and said, “I don’t know why he keeps going to your door”. I replied, “Probably because he smells Spunk”.
My neighbor was horrified. I was confused. I soon found out, however, that the word “spunk” had incomprehensibly evolved into a slang term for semen (why are “strength” words always associated to male genitalia when it’s a woman’s vagina that goes through childbirth?).
Clearly, words mean different things to different people. Men and women, in particular, have their own spin on vocabulary. For instance, and sadly, I’m betting “happy ending” doesn’t have quite the romantic significance to Kelly Preston as it once did. So, for this week’s blog, I explore men, women and interpretation.
Can anyone say “oh shush”.
Dr, Linda Papadopoulos, author of ‘What Men Say, What Women Hear’ reveals that when a man says “I had a great time, should I call you”, what a woman actually hears is “he’s trying to get rid of me”.
Really? Because what I’m hearing is BS from someone trying to sell a book. Ooops, did I really say that? I didn’t mean it.
In praise of “dumb” girls.
Being investigative, I turned to an epic source of relationship advice, Cosmopolitan. Guy Talk vs Girl Talk suggests that, after an argument, a woman should let her man know she’s still hurt (did I mention the argument is presumably over?) and she wants to snuggle on the couch so that he doesn’t think it’s okay to have sex.
So the argument’s over, but she’s still hurt and needs to snuggle (even that word is annoying) until she’s healed. I’m a woman and I just lost my erection.
Hear, hear!
Davezilla, a funny, somewhat off-color site provides a list of sentences women say followed by what men actually hear. For instance, when a woman says she’s a picky eater, a man hears “I’ll complain about everything” (not so sure that’s a leap). The most eye-opening? When a woman says, “I’m creative”, men hear “kinky”. As a creative writer, this finally explains all the spam I get.
The site also listed words men say followed by what women hear. For instance, when a guy describes himself as a picky eater, women hear “I’m gay”.
An ad that really communicates
This ad to promote literacy hardly uses words at all and yet it communicates its message so effectively. One glance and already you understand what it’s trying to say. Being succinct is important when crafting your online dating profile too. Keep it focused on your main traits and interests, and keep it short – approximately 250 words. That long enough to get attention and show that you’ve made an effort. It’s also short enough to keep attention. Make sure every word counts too. Don’t ramble on about an interest. Just give highlights.
Better yet, hire me to write your online dating profile. I use subtle ad techniques (no hard sell) so that you stand out among the millions of others competing online. I’m also trained to put a positive (and persuasive!) spin on you. Get started by completing the personality quiz. It costs nothing to do, but will help you uncover interesting anecdotes that you can add to your dating profile.
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