All posts tagged with online dating mistakes

The biggest online dating lie (and how to avoid it).

I once had a client who went on a date with a man she met online. By the date’s end, she realized he wasn’t quite her style. Still, he phoned a few times afterward and sent her some text messages to see when they’d get together again. This annoyed her. “I thought I was clear that I wasn’t interested”, she said. “What do you mean by clear?” I asked. “Our values were obviously different”, she replied. Note that she used the… read more

Online dating is not the problem. You are.

I read an online dating advice column today where a widow of three years wrote in to say that online dating wasn’t working for her. She explained that she’d been out on several dates with men with whom she connected with. However, they didn’t connect with her. To my surprise, the advice columnist  suggested that she stop online dating because she might find better luck meeting people in person at classes or activity clubs. Huh? The widow was having success… read more

Not-so-Funny Online Dating Profiles. Tip for Dec.19, 2013.

I have to caution singles dating online about the use of humor. It can so easily fail. You may be funny, but online profiles don’t convey tone very well. Nor do emails. So, while I encourage a bit of humor and lightheartedness, I nevertheless suggest you to do it with discretion. I found a dating profile on okCupid and it carried humor from start to finish. Here’s an excerpt of it followed by my critique. By showing you the mistake,… read more

Today’s tip for writing your online dating profile. Dec.5, 2013.

I like to post the excerpt of a random dating profile and then critique it. I choose profiles that have fairly common mistakes to prevent you from making them too. I found today’s excerpt on okCupid. I’ve noticed that profiles on free sites tend to be less savvy than those on paid sites. Yet, free or not, you’re online and you’re goal is to be attractive. So, while a free site might not cost you, a bad profile can cost… read more

Online dating profiles and “what your friends say”.

I’ve read a few dating profiles of late that begin with “friends say I’m…” Often this is followed by a list of positive adjectives. I even saw one profile the other day that read, “friends say I’m an adventurous 6 foot tall athletic male”. I looked at the photo and he was a woman. Just kidding. He was, indeed, six feet tall and athletic, but I doubt very much that his friends would describe him that way. When I read… read more

Writing your dating profile. Tips for Nov. 20, 2013.

Today I scanned online dating profiles on JDate. I chose to critique an excerpt from one particular dating profile because it’s a pretty typical example of all of them. In other words, it lacks distinction. Excerpt from the dating profile of a 34-year old woman. I’m a down-to-earth girl who loves the simple things like seeing a good movie whether that’s on the big screen or curled up at home. I’m pretty easy. I’m not the kind of woman who… read more

Online dating profiles. A How-To for Nov. 19, 2013.

Today I scanned a number of dating profiles on I found one that floored me in its inappropriateness. Usually I post excerpts from online dating profiles that have common enough mistakes so that anyone can relate. Today’s excerpt, however, is atypical. So why post it? Because it addresses an inappropriateness that has less to do with the words and more to do with the site on which they’ve been posted.In other words, in some environments this dating profile would… read more

Writing your dating profile. A critique for Nov. 18, 2013.

I scanned okCupid today and found a dating profile that made a lot of mistakes in terms of marketing. In addition, though the profile says that he’s 43, the settings say that he’s actually 49. Yet, despite this age discrepancy, he mentions “honesty” as one of his traits. Geech. Excerpt from the dating profile of a 40-something male. I am 43 years old. I’m a big runner and belong to just about every running group in town. I train to… read more

Writing Your Dating Profile, Tips for Nov. 14, 2013.

Today I scanned some dating profiles on Zoosk. I found one that I couldn’t pass up the chance of critiquing. Though an excerpt, it nonetheless represents the essence of this man’s dating profile. When you read it, you’ll see for yourself that it’s poorly crafted. Yet, I’ve seen countless variances of this kind of approach. The mistakes are surprisingly common. Excerpt from the profile of a man in his mid-30s: I have met a lot of great ladies on this… read more

Online Dating Profile Tips For Nov. 13, 2013.

Today I critique the excerpt of a dating profile that I found on okCupid. Though I read some outrageous ones on that site (what is it about free dating sites!), I’ve chosen one for the simple fact that it’s actually not notable at all: Excerpt from the dating profile of a 43-year old man: Hi. I am a self-employed consultant working in IT. I love what I do. I’m here to meet a new friend and socialize. Maybe you’re an… read more